THE WRONG PARTNER WILL KILL YOU

Rusty Johnson
Jun 17
2 min read

Updated: Sep 4

How the wrong relationship destroys the neurodivergent mind — and how the right one can resurrect it.

Some people sharpen you.Others dull your edge until you forget you were ever meant to cut through the noise.

If you’re FREEWIRED — wired differently, wildly, beautifully — the wrong partner won’t just dim your light. They’ll unplug the whole damn system.

Text on a dark green background reads: "The wrong partner will kill you. The most important decision you will ever make for your health and happiness."

They’ll call your fire “too much.”They’ll call your focus “selfish.”They’ll call your chaos “broken.”But they won’t understand the truth:You were built for brilliance, not for their control.

A.D.D. and Relationships

Let’s be real — navigating love with A.D.D. is hard enough. You’re intense. You’re impulsive. You hyperfixate. You vanish into your mind, and then come back blazing.

You don’t need someone who “tolerates” that. You need someone who reveres it.

Because the wrong partner will:

Guilt you for needing time alone to reset.
Misinterpret your overwhelm as apathy.
Dismiss your ideas as distractions.
Demand that you shrink to fit their version of “normal.”

And slowly — heartbreakingly — you’ll start to believe them.That you're too much.Too scattered.Too hard to love.

But the right partner?

They hand you the flame and say: “Burn bright.”

They don’t try to change you.They calibrate to your rhythm.They remind you that your sensitivity isn’t a flaw — it’s your compass.They get that your chaos isn’t destruction — it’s ignition.

They’ll keep you grounded when you spiral.And they’ll hand you wings when it’s time to fly.